The Great Letting Go

“What’s your favorite time of year?” I asked a friend as we were walking.

“Fall. I love this time of year! The leaves are changing, it’s getting colder, and the days are growing shorter. I really like the clouds and darkness of fall and winter.”

“I’m just the opposite.” I said. “I dislike fall and always have. I love light and sun, and when it gets dark so early, it’s depressing. Besides, fall was always the time when school started, and as a kid I never wanted to give up the freedom and joy of being outside playing all summer.  Summer has always been my favorite season, and I never want it to end.”

But there’s more to it. A few years ago, I finally realized why fall is challenging for me. Fall is a time of change and movement, and I often struggle with transitions. During the summer, nature explodes with growth, light, energy, warmth, and fruitfulness. Fall, by contrast, is the time when crops have been harvested, fields are plowed under, leaves fall to the ground, and the earth becomes fallow. Wood is chopped, silos are filled, warm clothes come out, storm windows replace screens, and we anticipate hunkering down for the winter. What has been given in such abundance is now taken away.

No wonder I am wary of fall. I don’t want to let go of summer, contemplate six months of darkness and isolation, and be forced inside my house, let alone inside my heart, where God waits to teach me patience, hope, and the value of rest and growth.

On my daily walks, I check out the leaves. From a maple tree, I pick three leaves that have not yet made their way to the ground.  One is green, one is half green and half red, and one is red. These leaves reflect not only the progression of fall but the letting go that characterizes the spiritual life.

I confess that I am not ready to yield fully to God. I want to live life on my own terms and remain green forever. At the same time, I yearn to align myself with the fullness of life that God offers. I grudgingly allow myself to turn partly red but keep one foot firmly planted in the life I desire.

I remember John 12:24, “Unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone. But if it dies, it bears much fruit.” I turn a brilliant red, offering myself completely to God’s cycle of life and death. As I prepare to die to all that prevents me from becoming who God created me to be, my color is a witness to the obedience and trust that guide my life’s journey.  “The summer ends, and it is time to face another way.” (Wendell Berry, Fourth Sabbath Poem, 1984)

The earth prepares with me. Squirrels hoard acorns. The coats of animals thicken. Deer are active through the winter, their digestive systems adapting to a changed diet. Bears gorge themselves as they anticipate the long rest of hibernation. Birds head south, finding their way together. Carved pumpkin faces delight. Children roll in the leaves.

Of course, the word “fall” does not come from a bed of leaves but from the sun. The amount of sunlight reaching the earth’s surface determines the change of seasons. As the earth slowly falls away from the sun, the intensity of light lessens. The light then “springs” back in six months.

Finally, there is The Great Letting Go, and I fall, playfully surrendering to the ground, where I lie, waiting to be transformed and ultimately reborn in due season. The losing of my life: surrender, emptiness, melancholy.

Letting go of possessions, children, perfection, youth, dreams, productivity, relationships, addictions, anger, and old ways of thinking. Completeness in nature. It’s done for the season.

Gather it in and wait;
Wait for the cold;
Wait for restoration;
Wait for hope;
The ebb and flow of life… the spirituality of fall.
All things pass away.

Completely free, I am able to see myself and God more clearly. I recite Psalm 8, which I memorized during Disciple Bible Study many years ago, “When I look at your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars that you have established; what are human beings that you are mindful of them, mortals that you care for them?”

I can’t tear my eyes away from the heavens, claiming the beauty and gifts of the darkness in my own life.  “I will love the light, for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness, for it shows me the stars.” (Og Mandino)

As I walk, I wonder and ponder, eyes and ears open to God’s leading. I ask the hard questions. What do I need to let go of in order for Jesus to fill me up again? Disappointment, bitterness, fear, hopelessness, helplessness?

In the midst of COVID-19, ours struggles around racism, worries about the future of our beloved UMC, the health of our local churches, a farm economy that has suffered great losses this fall, and fears around the future of our beloved United Methodist Church, there is a great letting go.

·      A hawk glides through the sky. I, too, long to fly free.
·      The wind whistles through the trees. I long to follow the wind of the Holy Spirit.
·      I rejoice in the warmth of the fall sun, knowing that those precious days are already        giving way to the coldness and darkness of winter. God, I long for the warmth of your love in my life so that I can warm the hearts of others.
·      Just as the clear water reflects my own image back to me, so I long to reflect God’s grace back to others.
·      I long for the faith of trees firmly rooted in the earth, trees that trust God enough to offer their leaves to death, believing in the new life that will return in the spring.
·      I long for Jesus to carry me through periods of dormancy, knowing that God can work through me even when I cannot see it.
·      I long to be nimble as the white-tailed deer bounding through the forest, always ready to go where God calls.
·      I long to clear out the undergrowth weighing down my spirit so that I can see and smell the flowers that still hang on to life.
·      I long for the drops of dew that are my tears to be a source of healing and hope for others.
·      I long to say goodbye to what no longer matters rather than cling to what I do not need.
·      I long to respond to the persistent call, “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.”  (Isaiah 43:1b)

Like nature, I am dying to live.  The Great Letting Go.

10 thoughts on “The Great Letting Go

  1. Thank you Laura, that was very thought provoking. I am 79 years of age, and you have described me completely. I worry about my children and grandchildren, my friends, the nation, and our world. I pray that God will heal the sick, lift up the weak and oppressed, and make this world whole again. There is so much stress and strife, so much narrow-mindedness and hatred in America. God help us all.

  2. Dear Laurie,
    Your column brought to mind a song by Carrie Newcomer, one of the 3 famous Quakers. (Parker Palmer and Phillip Gulley are the others)

    “Leaves Don’t Drop They Just Let Go”

    • David, Thank you so much for sharing Carrie Newcomer’s song. It is beautiful as well as poignant. I hope you are well. God bless you.

  3. What I just read was so right on point to how I feel and what I anticipate will happen in my world. The words went gently to my heart and mind. Thank you.

  4. I so needed this because I dread winter. However, I am startled by God’s message to me today. I read a daily meditation by Richard Rohr and ,although yours is easier for me to understand, today both center on the need to give up self. Much to chew on.

  5. That was so beautiful. I am amazed at the way God enters into your being to give us such insightful lessons… you always have from when I participated in the Desert Sisters retreats at Birmingham FUMC.
    God Bless You.

  6. Just read your words about fall and winter coming on. I agree with so much you said. I’m 80 years old don’t care for the long winter nights. I live on a farm and sun is shining brightly as it nears the horizon on the first day of daylight time. I believe no day is ever bad if the sun is shining. God lifts our hearts if the sun shines. Thanks for you thoughts. Thank you David Hill for the song. I really enjoyed it. So true.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.